Are you in a good relationship with your self??!!
Updated: Feb 7
Imagine that you have a date with yourself. Will you love it? Will you be wanting to meet again?
If the answer is 'no', you might have to start thinking about why you feel the way you do. What is it that makes you feel you are not worthy of love?
Self-love defined as "love of self" or "regard for one's own happiness or advantage" is easily put in words but one of the toughest things to achieve.
Since the month of February has come along, I thought to jot down about love. So all the posts for this month are going to be centered around the feeling of love and I realized that the first and foremost love all of us could be nourishing is loving oneself. I know its easier said than done and I am myself on the journey too.
It took me quite some time to understand the importance of this concept and I had my own share of trials and errors and have finally devised a self - care ritual for myself. Thought I would share it with you and maybe you could relate too.
1. Meditation: As soon as I wake up, I make sure to just sit down and meditate. When I initially started( even now sometimes) my mind is all over the place. It's okay to feel like that. I take this time to just align my system to the present moment and to not regret my faults from yesterday. It helps me to focus on what's more important and rejuvenates me for a brand new day. This feeling at the start of the day keep me in the loop and set aside the overthinking brain of mine.
2. Expressing Gratitude: I have a gratitude journal that I keep updating every single day. I count my blessings and shift my perspective from what I don't have to what I have. This helps me to appreciate the little things and makes me happy innately.
Another thing that I do is to hold each of my body parts and genuinely thank them. Now, this may be a little creeped out concept for some, but hey its part of my ritual. I touch my feet, thanking them for taking me around, hands for being able to hold things. It's like cherishing your own body, if you don't, who will?
3. Pray: This is a very recent addition to my list. I was always a person who believed in god and occasionally do visit temples, but it's just in the past 3 months that I really started soaking into spirituality a lot. My parents always used to tell me that spirituality gives you inner peace and I can't count the million times I have scoffed on that, but now when I am doing the practice I am understanding what they were trying to say. The feeling I get reading Bhagavadgita(one of the holy books of Hinduism), is just inexplicable. It's like a protective blanket but a perpetual one.
4. Off Social media: It's a pact that I follow to not check my phone for at least 2 hours post wake up and before sleep. I found out that this practice saves me time and gives me a clear head which in turn rewards me with a productive morning and gives me a good night's sleep. I do not keep my alarms on my phone and instead switched to clocks and had to consciously stay away from checking my phone. I believe that the way I spend the initial hours in the morning decided the pace of my entire day.
5. Affirmations: I have talked about these in some of my previous blog posts. I have a set of them which I keep saying whenever I need them. It's a personalized version, what my priority is, need not be necessarily yours too. So you could whip out yours and keep them handy all the time, it has helped me more than I ever imagined it could.
6. Hug Yourself: You might be thinking," what is she up to?", just hear me out before you jump into conclusions. Last year, I had a panic attack, even though my phase of depression was long gone. Now why it happened, can make another post on itself. while I was in there, I don't know what made me do it, I started hugging myself, I needed something to just calm me down otherwise my pounding heart might have just exploded. Hugging myself was the best I could do and the serenity I felt cannot be explained in words.
I do know there are many other methods of self-care too. Cooking a healthy meal, bubble baths, aromatherapy, exercise and many more. I just listed down some of my personal ones.
Loving ourselves is of prime importance but it can be achieved only through the 3 D's - determination, discipline, and dedication. Just understand that if you are not happy being yourself, nobody else can make you happy. Being happy on your own skin is your responsibility and you own that to yourself.